We’re back in Acts for a while, picking up where we left off in chapter 23. Paul is in the midst of a major confrontation with the Jewish establishment in Jerusalem. Confrontation is something that we all have to endure. Even if we try our hardest to avoid it, confrontation will come our way. As Steven Covey has said, only 10% of life is what happens to us. The other 90% is how we react. This is never more true that in the midst of confrontation. Rather than trying to avoid confrontations, we must learn to react well in confrontations. From Paul’s example we can learn the following lessons.
Allow yourself to be emotional and to express your emotions, but stay in control
When in a confrontation, some people let their emotions rule them. Others try to suppress and hide their emotions. Neither is healthy. In verse 3, Paul clearly does not hide his emotions. He has been wronged and expresses himself emotionally. God has created us as emotional beings, we should not try to hide our emotions. Honest anger is better than a dishonest smile. That being said, our emotions cannot rule us. Paul told the Ephesians “in your anger do not sin”. He did not tell them to suppress their emotions, only to stay in control. We have been promised that the Holy Spirit will give us self-control, we need to rely on the Spirit in times of confrontation.
Quickly admit your mistakes
When Paul is confronted with the fact that he is speaking to the high priest, he quickly admits his mistake. He easily could have responded with accusations of his own, but instead he repents and moves on. Most parents have heard some variation of the “He hit me!” “He hit me first!” conversation. Responding to criticism with criticisms of our own is human nature. We must resist this natural response and instead model repentance. This is especially true when dealing with those who are not followers of Christ. If we are calling people to repent and seek Christ’s forgiveness, we should be living examples.
Find common ground and support wherever you can
Paul walked into the Sanhedrin as one man against a mob. By seeking common ground with his adversaries he found allies, even if they didn’t agree with him on every point. Within a confrontation, we should try to find common ground with people rather than simply seeing them as adversaries. There is always common ground to be found, and even if we do not win an argument we may win a friend.
Stay “on message”
In verse 6 we also see Paul striving to get back to his main message, the resurrection of Jesus. Throughout the New Testament we see that the resurrection is the central message of Paul’s gospel. Rather than allowing his opponents to control the agenda, Paul strives to stay “on message.” When we find ourselves in a confrontation, we can easily be sidetracked. We must focus our efforts on the important issues and not be distracted by more trivial issues. Even in our efforts to share the Gospel, we often spend too much time debating side issues (politics, culture, etc.). We would do well to keep our focus on what’s important: Jesus Christ.
Draw courage from knowing God is with you
Our passage concludes with God encouraging Paul to not give up but to continue contending for the faith. We too must take courage knowing that God is with us. As we recognize and rely on the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives we will see the fruit of the Holy Spirit in action, especially in times of confrontation. As Jesus promised, the Spirit will give us the words we need to say. There is no need to fear.